Misandry; Gynocentrism; Misandrist Clubhouse, the Nigerian and Continental African online spaces

First, I got to admit a few things; A few of my activities this year have gotten sidetracked from a few of my goals and plans, such as putting down an article within a minimum period. Also, from other things like completing my weekly to-do list at all costs. Let me explain.

I entered this year 2021 with several targets and goals. First, however, the heightened immobility of 2020, helped by the global pandemic, gave me what I would call extended thoughts on what I want to achieve entering the New Year.

A few of my goals were already set and evident, like the fact that we were expecting twin children who had a due date for the summer of 2021 — our third and fourth children. This created upgrading our accommodation, larger family necessities and other needs from caring for a growing family.

Also, personal goals like progressing in academic programs I am currently enrolled. Finally, completing a few loose ends around my status as a U.S veteran and my benefits. The most important was upping the groundwork I had laid years prior for content production, with my road map leading projects like an online publication and documentary content.

I sit now, late in August 2021, these goals and targets are either completed or on schedule. But the ones I missed or am behind matter a big deal. That’s because I should have finished them and still had enough time to space for other things this year.

I will be stating the reasons for my indulgence and being sidetracked here and in a few other posts. And yes, it has to do with a social media platform and some of the conversations on them. Like the ADOS and the realities of them being just an anti-black immigration-driven organization harassing people, they deem as other. Ethnic rivalries and what then become more or less tribal conflicts. But for today, I am going to talk a bit about Misandry, Gynocentric extreme-feminism. Lookup a more straightforward definition of the meanings of these terms if you need.

The Clubhouse has communities and ecosystems that engage in verbal violence, bullying, gossiping to damage other people’s images. In this case, I will specifically talk about the Nigerian ecosystem comprising some who live in Nigeria but are powered by a few British and American-based Nigerians. Yes, some males are involved for various individual reasons. Sometimes virtue signalling, penetrating, vindictiveness and so on.

For today, I am going to tell a few anecdotal stories to illustrate the point.

In the middle of February, I was restless one night, and I decided to hop in a clubhouse room. I found a conversation that had this Lady leading with about six other people. I had come across this Lady twice on Clubhouse before. Every time I had come across her, she has been so unpleasant, even when her point was accurate. On one occasion, a room over 40 people had emptied in 30mins leaving less than five people because of her abrasiveness and downright demeaning attitude, which most of the people in the room later confirmed.

For some reason, something about her never sat right or added up, but this night, I decided to get on this stage and not talk much to help while I read. Until some London lady (from her accent) chose to come into the room to complain about the ongoing with the British royal family, linking it all to race. She did state the Queen has no powers within the running of the government. In her rants, The Royal family’s abolishment was long overdue. Then there were statements about how the Royal family moves money for their expense and why they could not help the Prince and his wife, who were complaining through the media. Also linked in her complaining were the Prince’s late mother leaving him and his brother private funds in case something happened. Like it had happened to her after her divorce from his father.

From her rants that evening, I agreed with one thing, having studied Law with the University of London, familiar with the limitations of the Morachy powers or lack thereof and its role in British society, which I expressed.

It was then that the group immediately decided that I had stepped over their bounds set for males and others against them. The Lady at the head of the group and others became combative, refusing any peaceful overtures I wanted to make. See, the Queen is an extremist-feminist Icon for those who view her as more powerful than British constitutional Law permits the monarchy. Immediately, the Lady who had been ranting immediately changed her views aligning with the ladies in the room, and shortly after that, she abruptly disappeared. Then, the Gynocentric and Misandrist actions began. I was not allowed to comment on their Queen in their midst. Soon I was banished from the stage and kicked out of the room.

Had that been the end, that would be good. But from that day on, this Lady became obsessed with coming to rooms where I was on stage to disrupt the ongoing conversation and interrupt me — also, spreading false information about me to others within her circle on Clubhouse. This was so that they would get others to be hostile towards me or to avoid my rooms.

She also used the blocking feature on Clubhouse. So as an application or platform based on voice, communication is essentially a weaponized tool used to bully, intimidate, and torment people. That only stopped when I decided to make her the only person I blocked on the App during summer as one of my responses to their actions.

Still, every once in a while, I do have to deal with one of her disciplines. From what I heard, I heard she would inform them about me and others she did not like then painted a picture of me during her gossip sessions. I was told that these gossip sessions are a staple that she uses to make life miserable for others.

One of such disciples is a lady, a Nigerian Law graduate also living in Nigeria. At a point in time, she ended up inviting me into a private clubhouse room under the pretext of discussion a conversation on Nigerian history. That was probably because on Thursdays I participate in publics roundhouse talks with a group Clubhouse.

She ended up claiming she wanted me to join her weekly book club on a somewhat racist book, only on the condition I would only go along with whatever were her views. So when I insisted I would only do so if I had my own voice she made sure to kick me off her that private stage and then the room. But she did not try the weaponized blocking feature on Clubhouse where we had the conversation. I guess her mentor had briefed her on how I responded to her attempts, and she figured the trouble was not worth the effort. Also, she was still young on Clubhouse at the time was clearly trying to build a following.

The Thursday history discussion is still sometimes attended by her, and It has made for some bizarre Thursday evening Nigerian history discussion groups because she has not dealt with the reality. This disciple always comes across to me as someone with severe “Daddy issues.”

My take is that Clubhouse can be great for community building and building valuable contacts. Still, many Continental Africans and Nigerians currently use it to fight each other along very destructive lines. Seemly trying to destroy any attempt by progressive elements to build any real community. Same for a large amount of the Global and Black adjacent communities I have come across on Clubhouse. With weapons such as ADOS, tribalism, victimization, and others, most of which we shall get to later.

For the most part, I entirely try to walk the progressives’ ropes and paths, which I will also talk about later. But these encounters, even when vicariously or from a distance, are disappointing and even horrifying. I do feel only an evolution of Clubhouse from these things will let it reach what I think is the founder’s stated vision for the application.